Most recently i was invited to a talk on non monogamy at Cambridge University by Dr Meg Barker.
With her kind permission she allowed me to record the lecture.
Here it is: Non Monogamy Talk
Rewriting the Rules
We live in a time of great uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One, but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after, but break-up after break-up leaves us bruised and confused. We find a partner, but the reality of the relationship is not what we expected, and it becomes hard to balance it with all the other things that we want out of life.
No wonder we look for rules about relationships to help us to make sense of it all. But which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, even though they don’t completely fit? Or do we try something new and risk being out on our own and regarded as a freak? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse rather than better?
This book is a friendly guide through the complicated, and often contradictory, maze of romantic relationships, exploring the rules that are out there today and the advice that they give us about attraction and sex, commitment and conflict, and many other issues.
Dr. Meg Barker is a sexual and relationship therapist, researcher, and author of many books and articles on relationships and sexuality. She edits the journal Psychology & Sexuality, lectures on psychology and counselling, and is recognised as a world expert in her field.